Savage Love
Straight talk
Dan handles a few problems — strictly between man and woman!
Published: July 3, 2012
Your dick will adapt.
You can help your dick adapt faster by stirring some other forms of physical and mental stimulation into the mix. Talk dirty (your biggest sex organ is between your ears), do some nipple play (I'm talking about your nipples), and explore different scenarios that turn you on (girlfriend calls the shots?), all the while experimenting with different positions that might provide you with a slightly snugger fit (girl on top, doggy-style, etc.). Good luck!
Q:
I'm an 18-year-old male about to head off to college in the fall. I'm not the best-looking guy — skinny, pale, some acne — and I'm afraid that I'm going to be one of those college freshmen who aren't getting laid. What can I do to help make my potential college sex life better? I'm a smooth-talking guy in some ways, Mr. Dan, but it doesn't work a majority of the time and I don't understand why. —College-Bound Boy
A:
First, CBB, "it" doesn't work for a majority of the people a majority of the time.
It doesn't matter how smooth a guy's talk is, how tight his abs are, or how fat his wallet is, most of the people he meets won't wanna sleep with him. I'm not going to lie to you: Smooth talk, tight abs and a fat wallet improve a guy's odds considerably. But for reasons that run the gamut from religious to logistic to simple miscommunication, most people won't want to fuck a given person, however smooth, tight, fat, etc.
The trick is to keep working it — to keep looking around — until you find someone who does want to fuck you. And there will be plenty of skinny, pale and spotty girls at your school, as well as girls who can see past those things. Your odds will be better if you can look past 'em too.
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