Published: March 23, 2011
Most women who aren't interested in sharing an erotic moment with Sparky — because they're not into Dom/sub play or not into Sparky — would feel uncomfortable reading that letter, which suddenly sexualized a nonsexual exchange of goods and services. Some women — to say nothing of their husbands — would feel deeply violated. Making women feel uncomfortable or unsafe in their own homes by springing your erotic submission on them — and requiring them to participate without first obtaining their explicit consent — is sexual aggression masquerading as erotic submission.
And it's not OK.
Professional Dom, sex bomb and sex blogger Mistress Matisse (mistressmatisse.com) agrees with me: "That's totally inappropriate," Matisse said in an e-mail. "Those folks did not agree, either overtly or by any action, to be involved in topping that man. If his Mistress really exists, then they are both complicit in creepiness. It's also quite possible that he has no female partner, he just says so as part of his fantasy."
If I were you, ANH, I wouldn't hire Sparky again. Not because I wouldn't mind having a submissive electrician around the house — that sounds like fun, actually — but because I wouldn't want an electrician around the house, submissive or not, who displayed poor judgment and had no boundaries.
Confidential to Kimbo: It sounds like you made the right choice when you DTMFA'd that dude.
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