Savage Love
Screwin' the pooch
Sometimes, you don’t need advice, just the realization that you blew it
Published: May 9, 2012
Some guys will tell you whatever you want to hear, of course, which means you could wind up in bed with a man who doesn't believe any of those things. But he'll know to keep his mouth shut, ABW, and since you're not going to see him ever again, does it really matter what he thinks?
As for your fear that your girlfriend won't speak up in the moment: Address that with her, address it at length, and consider taking penis-in-either-of-your-vaginas sex off the menu for your first threesome.
Q:
I'm a 32-year-old bi gal into both sub and dom roles with men. I'm GGG and excited by trying out new-to-me stuff. I had never pondered sexless guy-guy ball busting before reading the letter from BSTD in your column last week. Now I don't know if I should thank or curse BSTD for giving ME a new kink! I think watching this would be so hot! —Bad Acronym Lass Loves Sex
A:
I'm not one to toss that cruel "there's someone out there for everyone" bullshit around. Fact is, some people do wind up alone. But kinks usually aren't the reason. Whatever your kink might be, shy lil' kinksters, there are kinksters out there who either share it or will spark to it.
Confidential to everyone on Earth: Be sure to watch Savage U on MTV on Tuesday nights, 11 p.m./10 p.m. Central in the United States and 10 p.m. in Canada.
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