Liberal dad can't deal with son's Pokémon fetish
Published: March 17, 2014
A: I agree with your wife: Let it go. Ignore your mother’s hurtful email — just don’t respond — and focus on your wife and the child you two are having together. The last thing you need is your mother getting in your wife’s face about her kinks or running to fetus protective services because she believes kinky parents are a danger to their children.
Just in case your mother brings it up again — if she presses you for an undeserved thank-you-for-terrorizing-me note — write an email to your mother, one that your wife sees in advance and approves. Something along the lines of: “My adolescent sexual fantasies were none of your business, and your inability to respect my privacy and sexual autonomy caused me great personal distress at the time. Your actions did not help me. They damaged our relationship. My adult sex life is none of your business, and I am not going to answer any invasive or inappropriate questions. All you need to know is this: My wife and I very happy together — both emotionally and sexually compatible — and if you want to be fully involved in the life of your grandchild, you will never bring this subject up again.”
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