Advice for depressed virgins, bi girls in hetero relationships
Published: February 26, 2014
A: Sexual compatibility is hugely important, NAIVE, and prioritizing it doesn’t make you a bad person. But the choice you’ve laid out for yourself — dating only kinksters you meet on FetLife or nice girls your friends set you up with — is a false one. Date both. You’ll have to establish emotional compatibility with a woman you meet via FetLife, or sexual compatibility with a woman you meet via real life. FetLife or real life, there’s some work to do at the start of any new relationship.
And don’t assume that a woman you meet through friends is gonna be vanilla. She met you through friends, and you’re not vanilla, right? It’s a bad idea to give someone a laundry list of your kinks on the first date, NAIVE, as no one — kinky or vanilla — finds that kind of emotional cluelessness attractive. Just say this when the conversation turns to sex: “I’m pretty sexually adventurous.” There’s a good chance you’ll get a “me, too” in response.
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