Savage Love
Addicted to love?
Sex-negative therapists and the fallacy of 'sex addiction'
Published: January 30, 2013
A:For readers who are just joining us: A CPOS is a “cheating piece of shit,” someone who cheats on a partner without grounds. You are not a CPOS, MEXICO. You had grounds: You wanted out, tried to get out, but couldn’t get out because your crazy ex essentially took himself hostage by threatening suicide. (Which is an abuser’s tactic, folks, please make a note of it.) Your infantile, manipulative, selfish ex wasn’t allowing you to go peacefully. Cheating on him and getting caught may not have been a conscious exit strategy on your part, MEXICO, but it was a perfectly executed one.
Seattle readers:We’re doing a live taping of the Savage Lovecast for SINGLE PEOPLE ONLY at the Neptune Theater on February 14. There will be free lap dances, a bondage demo with Twisted Monk, music courtesy of DJ TROUBLE, sex advice from me and Mistress Matisse, the Human Cupcake, and much more. Tickets are available through STG (tinyurl.com/savlov). Be there! This event is for SINGLE PEOPLE ONLY. (But since we can’t discriminate against coupled people — damnit — it’s for everyone!)
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