Addicted to love?
Sex-negative therapists and the fallacy of 'sex addiction'
Published: January 30, 2013
A:For readers who are just joining us: A CPOS is a “cheating piece of shit,” someone who cheats on a partner without grounds. You are not a CPOS, MEXICO. You had grounds: You wanted out, tried to get out, but couldn’t get out because your crazy ex essentially took himself hostage by threatening suicide. (Which is an abuser’s tactic, folks, please make a note of it.) Your infantile, manipulative, selfish ex wasn’t allowing you to go peacefully. Cheating on him and getting caught may not have been a conscious exit strategy on your part, MEXICO, but it was a perfectly executed one.
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