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  • Detroit launches website to auction city-owned homes

    “Neighbors wanted.” That’s the message on the homepage of buildingdetroit.org, a new website launched by the City of Detroit today to auction off city-owned homes to prospective buyers who pledge to fix them up and move in. “We are moving aggressively to take these abandoned homes and get families living in them again,” Mayor Mike Duggan said in a statement today. “There are a lot of people who would love to move into many of our neighborhoods. Knowing that other people are going to be buying and fixing up the other vacant homes at the same time will make it a lot easier for them to make that commitment.” The website to facilitate the auctions went live this afternoon. The first auction is scheduled to take place Monday, May 5. Officials said in a news release that one home will be auctioned per day, Monday through Friday. Fifteen homes are available for sale on the site, a dozen of which are in the East English Village neighborhood. Any Michigan resident, company, or organization that can do business in the state can bid, according to the website. Properties will be for sale for only one day, with bidding taking place from 8 […]

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  • Tickets for Steven Spielberg, John Williams summer concert sell out in 15 minutes

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  • Blowout 2014 schedule available to view now

    The schedule for Blowout 17, taking place Wednesday April 30 to Saturday May 3 in Hamtramck, Detroit and Ferndale, is available to see now. Visit MtBlowout.com to see the schedule and plan your festival. Follow @City_Slang

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  • City Slang: Trash Brats get sleazy at Small’s

    The Trash Brats hardly ever play live anymore, so each show feels like an event. Wandering around Small’s in Hamtramck late Saturday night, there’s a near-carnival atmosphere in the air. The Brats were never supposed to be taken seriously, but years on-and-off the radar have given the band the gift of respect born out of longevity. We’re not being dismissive at all. In fact, no amount of kooky faces from guitarist Ricky Rat and bassist Toni Romeo can hide the fact that these boys can play and the band writes killer bubblegum sleaze-rock tunes. The fact that the venue was packed compared to, say, a recent show by internationally known punk icons Sylvain Sylvain and Glen Matlock (which you would think would attract a similar audience) is testament to the fact that, in Detroit, the Trash Brats command a certain reverence. Before the Trash Brats took to the stage, local punks The Dives kicked off the night with a set of sincere, energetic and well-performed, if standard, punk rock. No frills (besides frontman Ron McPherson’s dapper suit), the band features members of the Junk Monkeys, the Black Mollies and the Joint Chiefs, and it drives through a set of catchy, […]

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  • Cycle 7 opens at the Red Bull House of Art

    By: Ayana Bryant-Weekes The Red Bull House of Art, a multidisciplinary and collaborative art project, relieves the stress of financial limitation or lack of tools and space so budding artists can manifest their creative dreams right here in Detroit. Six artists are selected for a three-month residency where they are provided individual studio space and materials, allowing their artistic concepts to flow freely. At the end of each residency is an unveiling and public display at the Red Bull House of Art Gallery. As show curator Matt Eaton told us in a 2013 interview, “The selection process for the current crop of artists was just the same as every round. The goal is not to find the hippest, coolest artists (though I think they are all very cool), but to find the people who may not typically have a voice.” This year, for the first time, Red Bull House of Art will showcase more than just Detroit artists. National artists from across the country in a special artist-in-residency program will have the opportunity to showcase their work to a much broader audience, and bring a national art stage to the Motor City. Since opening, 54 Detroit-based artists have been given the […]

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Q: In response to a wannabe fister who hadn't told his girlfriend about his kink, you wrote, "At three years, all your kink cards should be lying face-up on the table." Really? Then my husband and I screwed up. We've been married for 19 years, and he told me only five years ago that he wanted to be spanked. Less than two years ago, he mentioned that he had been to a dominatrix before we met. I thought we had talked about everything when it came to sex and fantasies. I was wrong.

While I have your attention: I'm having a problem with the spanking. It just isn't my thing. I told my husband he could go to a dominatrix if that would satisfy his needs. He agreed to go if I watched the session. I'm not sure I can do that either. Well, guess what? We can't even find one in our part of the country. I hate to think we need to plan a special trip outside to visit a dominatrix ("outside" means Lower 48 in Alaska slang). I can't imagine scheduling something like that when we're on vacation visiting kids, family and friends. Any suggestions? —Not Into Spanking

A: You didn't screw up, NIS, your husband did — he's the one who didn't lay down his kink cards.

I find this bit absolutely astounding: You gave your husband permission to see a professional dominatrix — a permission slip that countless submissive married men would be thrilled to have — and he responded by placing conditions on you? His desire to include you is a good sign (he's just that into you), but he's either an ingrate or a bossy, passive-aggressive, domineering douche-sub for responding like that. You're in a better position to judge which one he is.

My advice: Stand your ground. He has your blessing to go get his spank on — on his own. The accommodation you've proposed is reasonable and generous, and he should be grateful. He doesn't have to travel to the big city to see a pro with a fully tricked-out dungeon: Most sex workers are happy to indulge their clients' milder kinks, and spanking — as opposed to flogging, caning, sandblasting, etc. — definitely qualifies as mild.

If you do find yourself in the Lower 48 and he wants to make an appointment with a pro, just tell your kids, family, and friends that you're slipping out for a romantic meal. Accompany your husband to the studio, say hello to the nice dominatrix, and hand your husband over for punishment. Then you can retire to a nice restaurant and have the cocktail you deserve while your husband gets the spanking he deserves. And once your husband arrives, have that romantic meal.


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I've been in a BDSM relationship for two years with an awesome top who respects my limits. Like most GGG lovers, there are things I hate and won't do, and there's stuff I don't like much but I know he loves and I can put up with. One of these things is having his dick hit my cervix when we're fucking: He loves it because it hurts, but it freaks me out because I've heard stories of women having their cervixes ruptured during sex. He assures me that won't happen, but on at least two occasions I've bled so much that I thought my period had started. Am I right to be freaked for my cervix or is this OK? —Freaked By Bloody Sex

A: "Worrisome cervical damage, including cervical rupture during sexual intercourse between two healthy adults, is extremely unlikely," said Nassim Assefi, an internist specializing in women's health — as well as a writer, activist, and humanitarian aid worker. (Learn more about her superhuman kickassery at nassimassefi.com.) "Some caveats: This assumes no piercings of the penis (no spiky jewelry hitting the cervix), and this does not include rape of young girls, large-animal penis penetration of women, and use of foreign bodies (dildos and other objects much larger than human penises)."

Assefi adds that it's not uncommon to have a little cervical bleeding after vigorous vaginal intercourse, FBBS, and I'll add that a little bleeding — on occasion (birthdays, holidays, anniversaries) — can be normal after anal too.

"However, bleeding — especially heavy bleeding like a period — may be a sign of a cervix made fragile by STIs, benign growths (polyps), precancerous conditions or cancer, not to mention bleeding disorders. It's worth getting a pelvic exam and talking to a health provider about the bleeding if you're worried or the bleeding is heavy."

Assefi sums it up: "Bonk the cervix if you and your partner get off on it. Just make sure you're bonking a healthy cervix."


Q:
I'm a 28-year-old gay man, living with my partner for two years. I've always been open about wanting to be tied up, spanked, maybe trussed up in leather bondage gear. He's always been open about his reluctance to indulge me, saying he needs time to get used to it. I'm inclined to believe him, because it took him quite a while to get to the point of just being willing to strap me to the bed and jerk me. I'd like to explore some other aspects of my fetishes. He says we will, but thinking about me in kinky gear makes him anxious.

We had a bit of an argument about this, and I've agreed to drop the subject of my kinks while we're on vacation. He's worth waiting for: We click emotionally, he's sexy, I love his smell, we enjoy spending time together, I love the cuddles, we love each other madly, and the vanilla sex we have is great. So if he never got past this at all, it might not be a deal-breaker, but I'm hoping you have some ideas about how to make it more fun and less stressful or off-putting for him. —Boyfriend Isn't Necessarily Delivering My Erotics

A: There's one way you could make your kinks less stressful for your boyfriend: Outsource 'em.

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