Published: November 2, 2011
The results of a study recently released in the Journal of Sexual Medicine might interest you, WAMEA.
Researchers from George Mason University and Indiana University asked nearly 25,000 gay and bi men about their last sexual encounter with another dude. "Of all sexual behaviors that men reported occurring during their last sexual event, those involving the anus were the least common," Joshua G. Rosenberger, one of the study's authors, writes. Fewer than 40 percent of the men surveyed fucked ass or got their asses fucked during their last sexual encounter. "There is certainly a misguided belief that 'gay sex equals anal sex,' which is simply untrue much of the time," Rosenberger says. (Most interesting data point: Gay and bi men have "immense sexual repertoires." Researchers documented more than "1,300 combinations of activities." Most concerning data point: Only half the men who reported having anal intercourse the last time they fucked used condoms. Many of these men are, presumably, in long-term relationships, and may not need to use condoms. But high HIV-infection rates among gay and bi men prove that there are lots of guys out there who should be using condoms and are not.)
Back to you, WAMEA: Some of those gay and bi guys studied might have had anal sex the second-to-last time they got it on, or were looking forward to anal the next time. But we know from other studies that there are lots of gay and bi guys out there — some estimates put it at 25 to 30 percent — who never have anal sex. They just don't dig it. Your mission is to find a dominant, manly, bossy man with whom you're sexually compatible, i.e., a bossy top who wants to fuck your throat, your fist, your clenched thighs, your Christmas ham — whatever — but not your ass.
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