Published: December 1, 2010
I have a tiny mouth and tiny hands — could that be the problem? He says it doesn't have anything to do with me. He just plateaus. How do I solve this problem, Dan? Is our sex life condemned to, God forbid, just vaginal intercourse? —Barely Licking Over Wide Junk Of Boyfriend
A: What's the opposite of macho drama? Vulvo drama?
Look, BLOWJOB, if you're both giving and receiving oral, and giving and receiving hand jobs, then you haven't been "condemned" to "just" vaginal intercourse. You're having all kinds of sex — it's just that he requires something very specific in order to get off. If there are times when you want to mess around without being fucked, or times when you're not up for vaginal intercourse, just get him as close as you can and let him finish himself off with his hand.
Your boyfriend is orgasmic, BLOWJOB — there's no problem here to solve.
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