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Why I must be in charge everywhere but the bedroom

Q: I'm a 27-year-old divorced woman. I married the first man I ever had sex with, and we had a very vanilla sex life. He refused to try any play with dominant-submissive roles. My fantasies have always involved my submission and my favorite porn features women being submissive.

My current boyfriend is very open and experienced. With him, I've tried being held down during sex, light bondage, dirty talk, gentle choking, etc. The sex is amazing. Here's my problem: A few nights ago while we were watching TV and cuddling, he started to stroke my body. I asked if I could touch myself and if he would keep watching TV while I did it. I had the most intense orgasm of my life while he ignored me.

We talked about how this was very submissive behavior, and I said that I'd like to explore it more if he's open to it (he is). My concern is that this submission might spill over into the relationship. I am not submissive in the relationship; we're very much equals. I know that he sees it as a sexual kink and is very GGG, but I'm concerned that it could lead to him thinking that I want to be ignored in other aspects of the relationship.

Seeing as this is my second relationship and the first time I've been able to indulge my submissive desires, I might be worrying over nothing. I'm feeling like an emotionally leotarded, sexually repressed teenager. —Scared Of Submission

A: Keep talking to your boyfriend, leotard, and you'll be just fine.

At first it struck me as odd that you would be troubled by a thoroughly sweet moment of soft-focus, fuzzy-bunnies dom-sub intimacy and not by the other, arguably more intense, SM games you've been playing with your boyfriend. There you are getting held down, tied up, talked down-and-dirty to, and "gently choked" (gentle or not, choking is a bad idea) ... and you're worried that being ignored while you masturbate takes you into new and dangerously submissive territory?

After a moment's thought, I realized why this particular game troubled you so much: All of that other stuff took place in obviously sexual contexts, i.e., it happened in the bedroom while you were getting it on. This game — a game you initiated — began during a moment of not specifically sexual intimacy. You were cuddling, you were watching TV, you weren't having sex. If dom-sub games can break out when you're just sitting there watching TV, who's to say that dom-sub games can't break out when you're doing the dishes? Or at the movies? Or having dinner with your parents?

You can have the dom-sub dynamics you enjoy without having to worry about them slopping over into other areas of your life, SOS, by being assertive, communicative and vigilant. If you can ask a man to ignore you and keep watching TV while you masturbate, SOS, you should be able to say this to him: "Being submissive turns me on when we're having sex — and the minute I started masturbating, we were having sex — but if you treat me like anything other than your equal when we're not having sex, sir, I will kick your fucking ass."


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My guy wants to come in my mouth. I am fine with the act, but he produces a high volume of ejaculate, like, three tablespoons' worth. The only thing I can think of is getting him most of the way there and letting him come on my face. Any advice on how I can do this for him? —GGG Sex Partner

A: I measured out three tablespoons of half-and-half, GSP, and you couldn't drown a kitten in it, much less a GGG sex partner. An adult should be able to knock that back without much trouble.

Give the man a blow job, GSP, and let him come in your mouth. If there's too much ejaculate to swallow, or if you can't manage to precisely time swallows to spurts, allow the excess ejaculate to run out of the corners of your mouth. If you don't want to swallow any ejaculate, close the top of your throat when he begins to come and spit it all out — into your hand or onto a towel, or just let it run down and over his dick — once he's done.


Q:
I recently started college, and I met an amazing woman. Call her Jennifer. She's talented artistically, poetically and with a blade. I met her at the Renaissance Club, and the first time I saw her at Fight Circle I was intrigued. Older club members often adopt new club members. Jennifer and her girlfriend, Robin, adopted me as their daughter. A couple weeks afterward, we decided to have a pet-mistresses relationship between the three of us. I was content with this because it would allow me to get closer to Jennifer. One night, she and I "slept" together, and soon afterward, Jennifer decided to put the pet-mistress relationship on hold because she didn't want to drag me into her relationship drama.

I'm not sure what to do: Should I wait for them to break up (they have been having arguments lately and Robin still isn't aware that Jennifer and I "slept" together), wait for Robin to allow us to have a pet-mistress relationship again, or just move on? —Ex-Pet Lesbian

A: Sword fights, adoptions, pets, mistresses, faux-incest and pseudo-bestiality role-playing games — a lot has changed at Liberty University since I was an undergrad.

Look, EPL, if Jennifer and Robin are falling apart, step back and be patient. That way you won't be held responsible by the rest of Renaissance Club once you and Jennifer resume your pet-mistress-mommy-daughter-whatever routine.


Q:
I am living with a man whom I deeply love. I recently noticed that he is watching porn when I am not around. My self-esteem crashed when I learned this because he often claimed to be too tired to have sex. At the same time, I noticed that since he started watching porn, we have had a lot more sex. Can you help me sort this out so I can bandage up my wounds? —Bummed By Porn

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