Savage Love
Gay panic attack
Dude, taking a shemale's member up the bum doesn't make you gay
Published: January 9, 2013
Q: I recently used the term "saddlebacking" to indicate the position where a man rubs his penis between his partner's ass cheeks as either foreplay or nonintercourse sex. My girlfriend, a regular reader of your column, insists that I used the term incorrectly. Did I?
—Rubbed The Wrong Way
A: You did, RTWW. "Saddlebacking," as defined by Savage Love readers (the Académie Française of sexual neologisms), is when two straight teenagers, endeavoring to preserve an evangelical girl's virginity, engage in anal intercourse. This is a thing that really happens. Since anal sex isn't really sex, according to the abstinence educators evangelical teens are exposed to, many good Christian teenagers rationalize that getting fucked in the ass doesn't really count against a girl's virginity.
The act to which you refer — rubbing your penis between someone's ass cheeks as foreplay or as a substitute for intercourse — is known variously as frottage, outercourse, the Princeton Rub, or "the pearl tramp stamp." But in Chicago, it's known as "the Cardinal George."
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