Coming out online
When your closeted friend hits you up online, it’s time for a pat on the back
Published: February 8, 2012
Yes, dear readers, this could be a fake. Every letter could be a fake.
OK, SAW, two guys beating off in a hotel room? Sounds pretty gay to me. I mean, if a woman offered to help me out with my solo hotel room routine — mostly blogging and watching MSNBC, I'm sad to report — I'd take a pass, as that scene would be entirely too straight for me to get aroused.
Now, it's possible that your enjoyment of exhibitionism is so pure that the gender of the person or persons involved is irrelevant. That's not the case with my kinks, SAW, nor does it appear to be the case with your new spank buddy. And considering your friend's kink (punishment) and his faith (Catholic), I'm thinkin' the odds that your buddy has a few forbidden desires — perhaps gay ones — that led to his erotic obsession with being punished seem ... oh, I dunno ... kinda high. It may not have been gay for you, but it was gay for him.
As for whether what went down in that hotel room constitutes cheating, SAW, you're asking the wrong person. Show your wife the pictures and ask her.
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