Published: April 6, 2011
A: The pictures may not be important to you, SLUT, but your autonomy, your safety and your right to take enjoyment in and from your own damn body should be. So you're going to have to DTMFAST — dump the motherfucker a second time.
A boyfriend who's uncomfortable with your fetish is one thing. A boyfriend who's a threatening, insecure, controlling, irrational asshole about your fetish is another thing entirely. Someone invested in your sexual fulfillment, someone who loves and supports you, would not tell you to stop, or make accusations, or react like such a fucking baby. And someone who didn't have sexist hang-ups wouldn't make a distinction between the pictures you took after you met and the ones you had taken before you met. Beware of boys who freak out after stumbling onto what they believe to be evidence — even if they're wrong — that their girlfriends have been with other guys before them. They have issues.
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