Better than bananas
Aunt wants to give niece sex books and toys, but wants advice
Published: September 12, 2012
Desperate men do desperate things, AMU, and just as my teenage, closeted desperation drove me into the arms, beds and mouths of some nice young women, similarly desperate straight guys have been known to accept blow jobs from gay or bi dudes. And just as the concentrate-on-Bo-Duke blow jobs I got from girls back in the '80s didn't make me straight, the concentrate-on-Sofia-Vergara blow jobs straight guys get from dudes today don't make them gay.
It's possible, of course, that your husband will wind up getting rest-stop blow jobs one day — anything is possible — but that one time he almost got a blow job from another dude doesn't make rest-stop blow jobs any more or less likely. (I'm assuming your husband is telling the truth about not going through with it.) And as your being turned on by the thought of the husband getting a blow job from another man doesn't make those rest-stop blow jobs any likelier either, AMU, I think you should go ahead and let yourself be turned on by the idea.
After 20 years of boring vanilla-ness with my ex-husband, I'm tickled pink to be with a GGG guy who's into some fun stuff and encourages me to explore. The problem: One of his kinks is a smoking fetish, and I don't smoke cigarettes. Inhaling is a big part of the excitement for him, but I cough if I inhale, which ruins the mood. Any advice for ways to be GGG with this kink? —Cigarette Inhaling GGGirl
There are limits to being GGG — self-harm being one of them. Give him permission to explore this particular fetish with someone stupid enough to smoke. If he pouts, CIGGG, remind him who inhales his dick.
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